Monday, November 21, 2011

Seeking Affirmation

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When the Associated Press asked homosexual activists at their Bellevue press conference last week what additional benefits they can gain by getting the name "marriage," they said in addition to all the benefits already given them by the "everything but marriage" domestic partnership law, they want the name "marriage" because it will "erase the stigma" attached to their behavior and lifestyle.

They are seeking affirmation for a behavior that has been rejected by every successful civilization in the history of the world. And by every major religion.

This weekend I received a message---actually, an observation from LeAnna Benn, who heads up a program to help teens in the state. In light of remarks made to the Associated Press last week, I found her observations very, very interesting. I believe you will too.

In her own words:

"Under our just ended federal grant, we had same sex attendees. Many requested inclusion but few showed up for the relationship education classes. Most of the requests in person, by phone and by email were “tests” to see if our organization would discriminate."

"I found that many same sex women were residing in a group and one shy woman would ask if we helped same sex couples, then another. Finally, the dominate, outgoing partner of the previous 2 or 3 women would bring the group together in front of the table or booth and confront my staff with the question of our willingness to let them join the class."

"Recently, I got an email request to include folks for multiple partner living arrangements. What is next? It is not too far of a stretch to include polygamy is it?"

"Since we are receiving no funding from anywhere, do we have to include anyone that has strange configurations?"

No, LeAnna it's not too far of a stretch to include polygamy in their thinking. Once the door of re-defining marriage is legally open, it is only a matter of time until all kinds of strange configurations will be claiming the name. If marriage has been redefined, what then is the civil rationale to restrict marriage in all these configurations?

This is the time to stand for marriage---to defend it as only between one man and one woman.

Beside the moral and biblical reason to reject re-defining marriage, there is also the aspect of unintended consequences over time.

Thank you for supporting us in this critical time of defending marriage.

Be Vigilant. Be Discerning. Be Prayerful. Be Active. Be Blessed.


  1. Do people realize what we have to keep the door closed to, by keeping the definition of marriage as "One man + One woman"?

    If I understand the article there were 2-3 women who had a 4th dominate person and this was their "partnership"?

    God's design brings order. We are not discriminating against people, but the help they need is healing, love and plain Jesus to unravel what their relationship issues are....

    The ramifications of expanding Marriage outside of the traditional definition could take many generations to realize the harm.

  2. Couldn't have said it better!

    Craig in Lacey

  3. Allowing all citizens to license with their wife or husband, just as we do now with some citizens doesn't open any doors.

    Letting all people do what some can already do doesn't allow any people to do what no people are allowed to.

    And the point you are missing is polygamy is already not illegal in Washington state and people living this way have done so for decades. Whether all citizens can license with their husbands and wives or not it won't change that polygamists will still be living open and free here in Washington (and Oregon, California, Hawaii and Nevada).

    My husband says he's had 'couples counseling' with groups of 3 and more. I guess its all more a question are you here to cast judgement or to help make people's lives better?

  4. As a pastor, my experience has been that most, not all, but most gays who come for counseling are seeking affirmation, not help in the sense of freeing themselves from a destructive behavior. To merely affirm the behavior does not help them or make their life better.
    Thanks Gary for calling things as they are.


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