Friday, January 17, 2014

Middle School To Parent: "List Of Sex Acts Aligns With National Standards"

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When Mark Ellis's middle school daughter told him about the poster in her classroom, he thought it must be some kind of student prank.

After contacting the school, he learned it was not a student prank. The list of explicit sex acts boldly presented on the poster were part of---you guessed it--- the school's sex-ed curriculum.

Ellis was very upset.

Leigh Anne Neal, spokeswoman for the public school district, said it was part of the "teaching materials." And that it "aligns with national standards."

She told the concerned parent the "teaching material" is actually part of their "abstinence based" curriculum.

The more the parent has learned, the more questions have been raised.

Is public education now telling parents the curriculum is "abstinence based" as a ploy to continue as they have? Does a classroom suggestion that kids abstain from sex now clear the way for the same indoctrination that has become synonymous with sex-ed in the public classroom?

Has the word "abstinence" now joined the ranks of "tolerance" and "equality" and "choice" as a useful tool to advance an agenda by redefining the meaning, or in this case as a mechanism for deception?

Keep in mind the concept of "deception" has been around a long time. Planned Parenthood, NARAL and a number of homosexual activist groups have perfected the practice and have had significant input in the creation of most sex-ed teaching materials.

Some of the information below is graphic, but its in our children's classrooms and often taught as "normal" and "natural."

Every parent and grandparent must be informed and aware.

Fox News 4 in Kansas City first carried the story earlier this week.

Mark Ellis said his daughter, a 13-year old middle school student, was "shocked" by what she saw on a poster on the wall in her classroom.

She took a picture of it and showed it to her parents.

The poster is entitled, "How Do People Express Their Sexual Feelings?"

The poster boldly lists the following ways we can express our feelings: Oral Sex, Sexual Fantasy, Caressing, Anal Sex, Hugging, Touching Each Other's Genitals, Kissing, Grinding and Masturbation.

Ellis asked the school what every other responsible parent would ask: "Why would you put this in front of a 13 year-old student?"

And, "Who approved this?"

Ellis is also asking, "If they are putting this in front of my daughter, what else are they teaching her that I don't know about?"

The school's response is very important to every parent and grandparent. Also please note the name of the specific curriculum and the publisher or provider.

Who Approved The Curriculum?

Leigh Anne Neal, a spokesman for the school district said, "The material must be viewed in the context of a bigger curriculum."

She says, "The aligned with the national standards around those topics and its part of our curriculum in the school district."

She says the curriculum is "abstinence based."

The curriculum is titled, "Making a Difference" and is published by Select

It is recommended by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) as a "pregnancy prevention intervention."

The publisher's website says the program is designed to "Empower young adolescents to change their behavior in ways that will reduce their risk of pregnancy and HIV or other STD infections."

Why Feature The Obscene List of Sex Acts In The Classroom, In Isolation, While Making The Claim of Being Abstinence Based?

Ellis says, "This has nothing to do with abstinence or sexual reproduction."

He's right. It doesn't. And why would they use this particular information for a poster?

One thing not addressed in this issue is to whom is this material directed. The publisher says the material is designed to "empower young adolescents to change their behavior..."

Apparently educators have concluded that all middle school kids are sexually active. "All behavior" doesn't need to be changed in regard to sexual activity.

Surveys indicate that is not the case.

How Was This Curriculum Developed?

According to HHS, the original study program was developed using African-American students aged 13-14.

What Are The Results of The Program?

This is from the HHS website:

Three months after the program ended: Adolescents participating in the intervention who were sexually inexperienced at baseline were significantly less likely to report having had sexual intercourse in the previous 3 months. Program impacts on rates of sexual intercourse were not statistically significant for adolescents who were sexually experienced at baseline. The study found no statistically significant program impacts on frequency of sexual intercourse, condom use, or unprotected sexual intercourse.

Six months after the program ended: The authors assessed the same behavioral measures as at the 3-month follow-up survey, and found no statistically significant program impacts.

Twelve months after the program ended: The authors assessed the same behavioral measures as at the 3-month follow-up survey, and found no statistically significant program impacts.

Bottom line. The program has had "no significant impact."

What is missing from the results evaluation is what impact did the introduction of deviant sexual behavior have on the 13 year old students who were unaware of these deviant behaviors?

This, at best, is curriculum based on worst case moral situations.

In the worse case, this material is pure indoctrination.

This curriculum was not designed for the majority of 13 year old girls. Focus on the Family says 5% of 12 year old girls are sexually active, 10% of 13 year olds and 20% of 14 year olds.

Ellis says if the school does not change the materials, he will take his daughter out of the sex-ed class.

That's the least a parent should do.

Final thoughts:
  • Is the word "abstinence" now a ploy to disarm vigilant parents?
  • The 13 year of daughter has now been exposed to behavior she may not have been aware of yet. Is this the proper environment and time for her to be informed?
  • Sex-education materials are inordinately influenced by activist groups.

Remember: Children are a gift from the Lord; They are a reward from Him. (Ps. 127:3).

Be Vigilant. Be Discerning. Be Prayerful. Be Blessed.


  1. One of the biggest issues with early sexuality is the sexually inexperiences being told by orhers that certain sex acts 'don't count' as 'real' sex and they are convinced to do sexual acts as a result.

    Gary quotes that in this regard the study was very successful in preventing the start of sexual activity in those who were sexually inexperienced. That was what the program was for - kids need to know what the various kinds of sex are so can abstain and not belief someone when they tell them something doesn't 'count' as sex.

    Any 13 year old that didn't know these were all ways people have sex has parents who are leaving them prey to more sexually experienced children who might use the child's ignorance to their advantage.

    They have to know what to say 'no' to and what 'counts' as sex.

    1. I guess telling our children that anyone not to let anyone touch these parts and not to touch these parts does not count. I can see how they would not know what counts as sex.

    2. you are right, that isn't enough. Someone mentions Clinton, and by what many say is 'sex', i.e. penetration, he never had it with his aide which was why he had that response. Kids are naturally curious and if their understanding has any wiggle room both the person trying to talk them into it and their own curiosity will help make it happen. Take the example on the list of 'grinding' - just how easy would it be for someone to convince a child that was just harmless fun if they hadn't been told that it was a sex act?

      Again, the biblical age of consent for girls was 12 - any child that old that hasn't had a very direct version of 'the Talk' is vulnerable to persuasion by others. Knowing about sex has been shown to decrease onset of sexuality over those that are ignorant.

      This isn't a malicious plot - it is the best way to protect kids from getting involved in things they don't understand.

  2. Thank you Gary. This is very informative and will cause me to look more carefully at what is going on in my child's school. Thank you for your stance on truth and principle. Keep up the good work.

  3. You make a very important point. Indoctrination happens by just exposing children to materials as well as directly teaching them.

  4. I am sending this to our local newspaper and asking them to publish it as an opinion column. Others should do the same.

  5. Our public schools are stealing the innocence of our children. Very well said.

  6. And this is why I opout of sex ed. For my children

  7. It's perversion, sexual deviation, child molestation. It should be illegal. Why isn't it? Years ago handing out what was on that poster would have been a crime.

    Children need to be protected by the schools. They have doors locked now during school hours. Is it to keep the wolves in?

  8. I seem to remember a while back a representative in the Washington State legislature being reprimanded by the news for distributing information to the others in the legislature because female pages could see something sexually objectionable. I guess the big difference is that he was a Republican.

  9. Gary is not advocating that children not be taught about sex, he is saying they should be taught by their parents at the appropriate time, not by the school. Agree. Sand strong my friend.

  10. Sometimes I wish I was back in school. Maybe the students should make up a poster that asks the question, "What are the ways a student could respond to a teacher giving them a bad report card?" , and then show a student armed with an automatice rifle, a sawed off shot gun..., then show it to the principal, and ask if he can put it up right next to the other poster.

  11. Now, I wouldn't want to be for encouraging evil, mind you, but asking a principal if he would allow a poster that asks the question, "What are the ways a student could respond to a teacher giving them a bad report card?" with a picture depicting a crazy student armed with instruments to be used for malicious intent, might be a good converstation starter.

    Can we imagine a principal asking, "Why would you want to put up a poster like that? Are you intent on carrying out such a thing?

    And the student could ask, "Why would you want to put up a poster like that?(the other one) Are You intent on doing such things?"

  12. If the school keep messing with the student body by such posters, I shouldn't be surprised if malicious things happen by a student in such a school, for evil often begets more evil, and they opened the door to much of it.

    If they invite such things as lust, what might be the outcome?
    See II Peter 1:4 KJV.

    I suppose a student could then ask, (after showing the principal the first few verses of II Peter chapter 1), "May we put up on a poster some Divine Promises of God from the Bible, after we get your approval?"

  13. Really, do they really think that me as a parent is unable to teach my own child about these issues at the right age with discretion? Or that kids need to know this stuff at this age. My wife and I just finished a LAM (Love After Marriage) workshop and we are responsible for their upbringing so my words to those in the education system is BE CAREFUL on messing with our kids and get a clue! My vote will count at the next election!!!!


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